Let me start by saying thanks for stopping by, and reading about our journey! More specifically mine!
We are SO excited to go on this journey of becoming parents. Once we made our final decision to go through this process, I wanted to tell everyone- shout it from the rooftops, you know? I’m so happy I have Matt to share this journey with. It’s going to be rough at times, we know this… especially the waiting part.
I always knew there was a chance I would deal with infertility. I am a twenty three year cancer survivor. Cancer and the treatment has had me deal with a lot of issues health wise. At age four- I was diagnosed with Rhabdomyosarcoma, I had many rounds of chemo and radiation- did a few medical trials (which eventually did work,) oh you know normal kid stuff! ; ) When you’re told you probably won’t have children, it’s heartbreaking…this news came to me at the ripe age of thirteen, so at the time I didn’t think much of it, it was sad, but something I wasn’t needed to deal with at the time- I clearly wasn’t thinking of future Jessica. I never really discussed it with anyone because I was embarrassed mostly, and I don’t personally know anyone with similar issues. As I started researching about infertility I was able to find amazing support groups. Which has been helpful. I guess technically we could try to go through fertility treatments… you know science is amazing these days- but we decided early on not go that route. I personally don’t want to put my body through treatments because in all honesty it’s been through enough in the last 29 years. And, we feel a very strong connection to adoption.
Yes, we don’t get to have the traditional pregnancy, which makes me sad. Believe me, I would love to have the experience of carrying our child, and all of the exciting things that come along with being pregnant and yes, even the not so lovely things! It’s hard to know I will miss out on those 9 months, but it’s amazing how much love I already have in my heart for the baby and for the woman who is carrying the precious baby that will make our family whole.
Adoption is wonderful, and I’m very happy to go on this journey- as I think this is right where I need to be. It can also be really scary, and a lot of people don’t understand it. There are some really hurtful things say, just because there is a lot of miscommunication and many people aren’t educated about the process. If you’re unsure about adoption please educate yourself on it before saying something hurtful! Or you can ask me! I’m open to questions.
I know there is a reason God has brought Matt and I to this and there may be barriers along the way, but I also know he will bring us through it. We found a great local agency to work with (not to mention an amazing social worker!) and are now home study being approved!!
Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we go through this journey. We also ask that you pray for the expecting mothers, fathers, and their families making adoption plans for their babies.
xo- Jess